A Guide To Surviving The Holidays – After the Death or Loss of a Loved One

Ah, the holidays. The “most wonderful time of year”?

The holidays can bring back memories for us when we’ve lost a loved one (this could be a person or even a pet). These memories can be triggering and put a damper on the holidays. How are we supposed to have the holidays we’re so used to when an important part of that was to spend it with the people we love who are no longer here with us?

It’s important to have opportunities to express the loss you’re experiencing. You can do this by:

• Sharing a favourite story about your loved one.
• Surround yourself with those who you find to be supportive and comforting.
• Hold a place at the table for your loved one.
• Start a new tradition.
• Look after yourself and allow yourself to feel whatever feels come up.

Everyone grieves in their own way, so it’s okay to do something that feels right for you that isn’t listed here at all. You might also find different people in your life such as family and friends who grieve the loss of your loved one in a different way as well. That’s okay too.

It’s important to give yourself time and be gentle with yourself. You’ll have mixed feelings about a lot of things, and that’s okay. Let them out and reach out for support if you need it. You can also set boundaries with others during the holidays and excuse yourself from events if they feel too painful to be a part of. Don’t cancel the holidays as a result of the loss.

It might also be helpful to have professional support such as a therapist or support group, especially during a challenging time such as the holidays.