It seems like it’s become harder and harder to date. Dating articles range from “why did they ghost me?” to “why are they all hot and cold?” These questions are becoming more common as a result of the online dating and the apps.
In this day and age, there’s an illusion of having multiple options. This requires searching through those multiple profiles, going on multiple dates, having multiple chats and potential connections, and the possibility of having to experience multiple break-ups in order to find “that” someone (for those who want a monogamous relationship).
So, how on earth can we make sense of this messy online dating and app scene? Take the following into consideration (along with your own needs and standards in a romantic relationship as your true compass):
- What do I want when it comes to dating? Do you want something casual, to see how things develop, a serious relationship, marriage?
- What do I want in a relationship? Would you be okay with long distance, for example?
- What do I need from a partner? For example: kind, thoughtful, considerate, attentive, etc.
- What are my boundaries? What behaviours am I not okay with in a relationship?
- What is my gut saying about what’s going on? If it doesn’t feel right, check it out. If it still doesn’t feel right, consider saying no to this relationship.
Dating can be tricky and takes time.
If you have questions on how to further explore and understand your relationships, it can also be helpful to explore this with a therapist.
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